When did we start
slowly losing the ability to understand our children?
They still talk to you every day. But so many changes are hidden in the most ordinary answers.
When they were little,
we understood them so well.
When they cried, we knew if they were hungry, tired, or scared.
Emotions written on their face. A hug was all it took to comfort them.
They developed classmates, comparisons, self-esteem, secrets, and their own judgments.
Later, they learned to say many things.
But it became harder for us to know what they really meant.
Children never stopped expressing themselves.
Their world has always been hidden in their everyday words.
One sentence reveals little,
but time tells a story.
I had a lot of fun with them today.
They always pick someone else first.
I don't want to join group activities.
There's nothing to say about school.
Over the past three weeks, your child has shown increased attention to peer evaluations. When it comes to group activities, their willingness to participate has declined compared to before.
Not just seeing emotions,
but also seeing their abilities.
Clearer cause-and-effect reasoning when describing events.
Beginning to understand why others act a certain way during conflicts.
Proactively discussed mechanical structures and building for three consecutive weeks.
After failure, starting to actively seek alternative approaches.
Children's growth doesn't only show in grades. Many precious abilities are quietly growing in every expression.
What parents truly need
is knowing how to respond next time.
Your child has been less proactive in talking about classmates lately, but repeatedly asks whether others do better than them.
Compared to last month, they are more sensitive to others' evaluations and more likely to avoid competitive activities.
This week, try asking less about why they don't participate. Instead, share a story about a time you were afraid of failure yourself.